I hope this will help you because I had a similar problem with mine, the fuel pump relay is under the stering behind the screw on panel on the dash, the panel has got a electrical box on the back of it, it is isn't this but tucked just inside the dash you should find it on its own on the end of a wire. The next problem is tracking down a original RS 16i relay they are rarer than rocking horse S~#t so if you don,t mind having a non original one the mk1 golf gti has the same relay, which you can buy from German and Swedish car parts on the internet. hope this solve your problem!!!!!
simon, November 2007