The diaphram you refer to moves the fulcrum arm when there is hot water demand, doesnt it?. If this is the one, it has incoming cold water from the supply main on both sides. Next time you replace it clean all traces of adhered rubber from the nylon pin pusher plate and from the brass insides that it comes into contact with. You will find it lasts for very much longer, maybe a couple of years or more, depending on useage. They last no time at all if the old stuck on diaphragm bits are not cleaned away.
If the cold inlet and circulating hot water became connected then the pressure in the system (front panel pressure guage) would go right up to your cold water supply pressure, if over 3 bar this would lift the overpressure valve. It would be very unhealthy for your boiler.
c, September 2007